Since my last blog ” How to help friends in need ” I have received numerous requests to expand on this topic. The crux of this are your thoughts, intentions and The Law of Attraction. In essence and from a scientific view point also, as you will have heard me say many times, we are energy. We vibrate. At a raw level we are sub atomic particles moving around…..vibrating. Not just us but everything around us, including the computer your are looking at now, the chair you sit on and the table your keyboard is resting on. Obviously it all vibrates at different frequencies but vibrate we do.

The Universe is an attraction based universe and the vibration we send out is what we bring into our experience. That vibration is your thoughts and attention. So when you visit your friend for example that is having a difficult time through illness, depression, work problems, relationship problems or anything else, it is not in their best interest, or yours to focus on that problem. All you are doing is bringing more of that problem towards them and compounding it. Further you are attracting that problem towards yourself. Subtly at first, as in the early stages of attraction you will just feel some discomfort, but as you continue with your focus to this area you will draw the actual undesired scenario closer and closer to your own personal experience. The very problem you were trying to help your friend with!

You are no advantage what so ever to anyone by focusing on the “problem”, giving it your negative attention. Instead imagine them in an improved scenario, the scenario you would rather see them, a better feeling, well being scenario. Giving them your positive attention, your undivided attention to a better place is your greatest value to them and yourself.

People often come to me and relay their stories. This story normally involves their stress levels and the causes. A high percentage of these involves a friend or family member who is having their own problems. Depending on circumstances, I frequently advise to detach from this scenario so you don’t get involved in their negativity and pulled down with it. That doesn’t serve them or you!

I am then often asked ” But David, how can I help them and not feel guilty if I detach and don’t get involved? ” I say; We are vibrational beings, we vibrate with everything else in the world. If we get involved and offer negative vibrations/feelings/sentiments without detachment you will be adding to the negative state they are in and compounding it just by giving it your attention. Further you will be bringing that negative state ( whatever it is that your friend/relative has or is going through ) towards your own experience. That serves neither them or you. A quick and immediate guide as to how you know is your Emotional Guidance System. If you feel a negative emotion while dealing with them you are offering a negative vibration. If you feel a positive emotion you are offering a positive vibration to the situation.

The vibration you offer with your thoughts attracts more of that vibration. Both for you and your focus person. Like attracts like. It is Universal Law. The Law of Attraction.
In other words; Whatever you think about you bring towards you. Whatever you give your attention, you bring towards you.

Next time you are dealing with a friend/relative who is going through a crisis of some sort, be there by all means, support by all means. But don’t “go there” immersing yourself in it. Think of them better, in an improved scenario and hold that thought, offering a positive vibration for both you and them, attracting that better feeling scenario for both of you.
So really help your friends/relatives in need. Think improved thoughts towards their situation, imagine it better and don’t get drawn into the drama compounding it for both of you. That is the best way to help them and yourself.

Your words have power. They are an extension of you, your vibration, the signal and energy you transmit. They can be positive or negative, it is your choice. We all know about the more obvious aspects of words with expressions like ” The pen is mightier than the sword ” or “Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me”. But is this actually the case?

Words, spoken and written have been responsible for wars, international crises, segregation, prejudice, fear, suspicion, mistrust, indoctrination, loss of friendship and love, and loneliness to name but a few. On the flip side of the coin, they also contribute to world peace, respect, joy, contentment, friendship, learning, love and understanding. So wouldn’t it be wise to think about what we say before we say it? Take a deep breath before we offer those words out to be received? 

We are all energy. At a sub atomic level we vibrate which science has unequivocally proved now. When we speak, we have feeling behind what we say and intention, even if it’s subconscious or not realised. So if it is something negative, like I don’t like you, or you annoy me, or you fool, it offers a negative vibration which impacts on yourself, the person you offered it to and everything around you. On a mass global level with many people offering this type of vibration the scale of effect is huge.

 This is demonstrated by Dr. Masaru Emoto, a graduate of Yokohama Municipal University and the Open International University as a Doctor of Alternative Medicine. He is now world famous for his research and photography of water. He set up a controlled experiment with two samples of water from the same location and placed them in two test tubes. Then wrote the words hate on one and love on the other, froze them and photographed each at a cellular level, recording the crystalline structure on film. The results were astonishing. The water with hate written on it showed crystal structures malformed and fragmented. The water with love written on it formed beautiful hexagonal crystals. Similar experiments were conducted with children speaking to the water voicing words such as “fool, ugly” compared to “beautiful and thank you” offered comparable results. Beautiful crystalline structures for the former and malformed, dark fragmented structures for the latter.

Taking this a step further, if you read my previous blogs, you will know that we are anything from 55% to 75% water, depending on what journal you read. So if we feel negative or are offered negative vibration, it doesn’t take much to realise the effect it can have on our body at a cellular level. In this negative cellular state we can become ill, feel bad and even assist towards dis-ease as our bodies are in this cellular state of negativity. Of course, we can counteract this with good words and intentions, meditation and so forth. But how often do we do this? And isn’t is better to not offer or receive that negative vibration in the first place? Feel the difference in your self and day to day interactions when you are mindful of this. You will feel better inside and so will others around you.  

My point is this; be mindful of your words and the feeling you place behind them, especially when aimed at someone directly. The impact is far greater than you may have previously thought. Think before you write and speak, and be aware of the impact it will have, both on your self and others. You will notice a difference almost immediately in the way you feel if done in earnest. The long term implications for your well being and health maybe nothing short of staggering, never mind a general sense of peace and contentment on a deep core level. Isn’t that worth being mindful of what you say?

What I recommend to everyone is to place crystals in your water. This literally energises your water. Cleansing it and adding the energy from your crystal. Buy mineral water from the local supermarket or wherever you wish, pour it in a jug and place your crystals in the bottom. Alternatively with your water filter place the crystals in the bottom of the container. The crystals should stay in there and not be taken out. ( They can be removed and cleansed/recharged every now and then ). Leave the water in there for at least 30 mins before drinking. Use it for cooking, your kettle or just drinking.  This way you have cleaner purer water and then energised with the crystal.

Personally I use and recommend to all my clients Amethyst as it is a great cleanser, protector, energiser and so many other things. Just a small tumble size piece, rough or polished will suffice. It is a marvellous multipurpose crystal and is a superb base for your water. Further on from that, pour a glass of this water, place another type of crystal, Red Jasper or Fluorite for example in the glass. Leave it overnight to fully charge your water before drinking the next day and absorbing at a cellular level the energy properties of that crystal. You are actually playing at Alchemy! Adjusting the energy composition of your water to suit your needs.

Clients I speak to about this all notice a difference, even in the basic taste. So energise your filtered or mineral water and feel better.